Single Yet Not Available

Overall, me and Mr.D wedding package consists of 4 major phases, namely 

(i) the proposal, (ii) the ‘pengajian, siraman and malam boh gaca’ (Aceh cultures all in one day), (iii) the ‘akad nikah’ and (iv) the ‘sukuran’ alias resepsi.

Alhamdulillah..we accomplished the first one, the Proposal.  It was held on Saturday, 25 July 2009…together with my 25^th birthday celebration (huhuhu starting to feel old).

07.00 am

I didn’t need an alarm to woke up that morning, I felt excited all night and butterflies in my tummy.  Kept alert every hour or two, sitting on my bed, starring at my pretty blue dress that I’m going to wear for the Proposal, took a deep breath, smiling and then back to bed again. I feel like a 7 years old kid who’s going to have her first day to school moment or a teenage girl who’s going to have her high school prom night…

After bath, I went straight to Kat Salon around McD neighborhood.  Already booked it a month before…but apparently they FORGOT!!! So they kinda panicky when they saw me, hurried waking the other staffs who were still sleeping in the second floor and started to make 911 phone calls to any available make up staff they could reach.  I said nothing…the ‘jutek’ face of mine said enough…

Luckily, the make over part went perfectly.  Not too ‘menor’, not too heavy on my face, all acne scar gone invisible, not too ‘bibir merah’ and my hair only had a little but not too high ‘sasakan’.  Overall, the make up and hairstyle was perfect, all performed by Mba Ria (highly recommended) with a price below 300 thou!

10.00 am

All sets!

The food was ready, the decoration looked perfect, my bride’s maid already in her position (next to me)…and Mr.D’s family will come in the next half an hour. 

Suddenly my brother ran at my direction and said that one of my ‘rombongan keluarga nyasar mpe BSD’.

My brother : Uncle A is nyasar to BSD. He said you were pointing directions to him. What exactly did you tell him???

Me : I asked him where he was, and he said he’s 5 minutes to the toll exit.  So I said turn left when he sees a ‘bunderan’ and go straight until McD.

My brother : Well, did you mentioned that he have to go straight first then turn left on the second one?

Me : ups…ummm…well..yeah…I forgot about that one *grin*

My brother : uuurrrggghh $&%^#^%@#*

Well, it’s not my fault…it’s a common knowledge that you don’t ask me for direction since Im a little bit disoriented hehehe…and the GPS in my brain is not working well.

So yeah…they finally arrive half an hour later… ^.^

11.00 am

Mr.D’s family finally came in a very big group hehehe…

I was waiting in the ‘refleksi’ room with Yenny, killing our time with gossips, as usual.

and then my sister in law came in with my niece and said that Nasha was sweating so she needs an air conditioner room, and then she left me with Nasha…so me and Yenny played with her until she make that ‘I want my mom face’ and it took less then a minute until she finally cried and scream “I WANT MY MOMMY…..”.

me and Yenny looked at each other and then went panic.

  So Yenny finally took crying little Nasha to her mom that was sitting in the room where my uncle delivering his speech of acceptance to Mr.D’s family…

11.45 am

I was summoned (halah)…

It has been a week since I practiced the ‘catwalk’ move…so now Im ready!  I walked elegantly with a big smile on my face and then when I enter the room and heading for the chair next to my auntie, my uncle called me at told me to stand next to him…

This is way out of the scenario!!! My family was supposed to accept the proposal, and I was supposed to be called in after that, and all I did was supposed to be sitting and smiling ‘malu-malu’. Instead, I was standing in front of everyone for more than 10 minutes while my uncle was talking poetically and singing “love is foreveeerrrr….love is foreveeeerrrrrr….”.

12.00 pm

After my uncle FINALLY a

sked me to sit, next was the granting of ‘tanda ikat’.

Mr.D’s mom put a beautiful little ring to my finger and kisses me on the forehead.

After that, we were put together, me and Mr.D and people started to congratulate us before they finally enjoy the food (FYI: the catering was Rabia'h, very good price and great food!!!).

The rest of the event was taking pictures, chatting, and suddenly…a big birthday cake came out…and everyone was singing happy birthday.  I blew out the candles and gave the first the cake to none other than Mr. D hihihihi…

To this second, I still can’t believe im engaged to Mr.D…the ring successfully convince me every time I feel like hallucinating.

And with this ring on my finger, Mr.D made it clear that I am single yet not available ^.^

 Me and Mr.D

happy!!!

The attempts of Surprises

Me luuuvvvv surprises…and Mr.D knows it perfectly.

But what Mr.D didn’t know was, I prefer making one than having one…

Inspired by a birthday party bash that I set up for Mr.D on his 25^th birthday party this year, he made several attempts to set up episodes of surprise for me.

And this was how it turned out to be…

1^st episode – the event

On the 17^th day of May, Mr.D gathered all my brothers and sisters for asking permission to ‘take me’ as his partner in life.

On that occasion, he planned something evil (but very sweet indeed) for me…a surprise ‘lamaran’ ceremony on my birthday. (To date, I didn’t get the idea on how you can make a ‘lamaran’ ceremony into a surprise, especially for a girl. Girl needs preparation, lots of it…and we do love details).

Unfortunately for him, my auntie has a tight schedule on that day so it should be rescheduled the next week.

Buuutttt…on that rescheduled day, I already planned my annual getaway that could not be ‘diganggu gugat’ (maap lupa bahasa Inggrisnya ;p) for whatever reason there is. And as predicted, me..the stone head (baca: keras kepala) girl was too reluctant to change the date of my getaway.

So Mr.D went panic and blew up his episode 1 of the attempt for a surprise by begging me not to go on that day because it’s suppose to be our ‘lamaran’ day.

2^nd episode – the dress

For the purpose of preparing my dream wedding day (sekalian bahan buat ngayal di siang bolong…FYI: souvenir paling murah yang diusulkan di majalah Dewi adalah gantungan kunci Perlinis), I bought a Dewi magazine, the special edition of wedding inspiration (Rp75,000 and its really worth it!!! Tentunya buat dicontek…).

I found all my wedding dress design in that magazine and I ‘post-it’ it (no protest allowed, its just my unordinary way of saying things).

Mr.D and his mom and my sister planned this sweet surprise of preparing a ‘lamaran’ dress for me. So, his mom and my sister tried all efforts to borrow that magazine from me.

That one fine day, his mom text me and said that she need to borrow that magazine for Mr.D’s cousin. AT THE SAME TIME, my sister text me and said that she need to borrow that magazine because her friend was looking for a ‘kebaya’ design. Wadda coincidence!!!

At that instance, I suspected that something was going on under my nose.

And AHA!!!

I successfully made my sister confess that they are preparing the surprise ‘lamaran’ dress.

last episode – the auntie (and Mr D learnt his lessons)

According to the cultures of Aceh and Makassar, on the ‘lamaran’ day the bride-to-be will be given a symbol by the groom-to-be family, namely ‘tanda ikat’ (apa pulalah Bahasa Inggrisnya ini).

For days, I’ve been trying to find out what would Mr. D give me as ‘tanda ikat’ but everybody keep shutting their mouth. The attempt to seduce my sister-in-law who’s not really a secret keeper was a total failure. I finally gave up and ‘pasrah’ with anything that will be the ‘tanda ikat’ (I have a very high level of curiosity, so things like this can turn me into an insomniac at night!!!).

Once upon a day in the 28^th June of 2009, again..according to the cultures of Aceh and Makassar (I had no idea before that Aceh and Makassar have a lot in common), Mr.D and his mom, and his cousin and his dearest auntie came to my house to deliver the pre-proposal.

The idea was to confirm that my families will very much welcome Mr.D’s family and their proposal. His auntie was acting as the spoke-person…

The pre-proposal went well…and thennnnn…

His auntie suddenly, clearly, and even loudly…spilled out what the ‘tanda ikat’ would be (ups…sorry, I wont tell you what the ‘tanda ikat’ would be…it’s a surpriseeeee *wink wink*).

Mr. D and his mom and his cousin turned their face to his auntie. It turned that they have forgotten to tell auntie to not say anything about the ‘tanda ikat’.

Spontaneously, me and my brothers and sisters laugh out loud (especially me!!! huehehehehee).

After three episodes, Mr.D finally learnt his lessons:

1. He’s soooo not good in making surprises;
   
2. You need to make sure that those on your team are secret keepers and not over-anxiety persons; and
   
3. Tukang tipu ga gampang ditipuuuu…jadi bawaannya curigaaaannn terusss, well…either curigaan atau kegeeran sih kalo gue hihihihi…
   

Mr. D episodes of surprise may not have a happy ending…but I surely am happy for his attempts.

Maaciyyyy beib… ^.^ luph